Do I just file for a Divorce??

 ***Out of our 8 years of my marriage, my husband hasn’t touched me for 5 years despite the fact that we sleep in the same room and bed, NO TOUCH! Out of frustration, I have been in and out of our matrimonial home more than 3 times and each time I do, he does not waste time to bring in different ladies to spend some time with (In the house that we pay the rent equally o).

I find myself returning to the house after too much pressure from my parents and people around me that I should remain faithful to my wedding vows as a christian and for the fact that God hates divorce. In addition, our 7 and 3 years old children are always crying and demanding to see their Dad whenever we are away from the house and I mostly go back because of them.

Please everybody , my blood pressure is running too high, I am practically running mad, I am dying, I AM TIRED!!! What do I do because I dont know if it’s a spiritual problem of I am just no longer attractive to him.

*** I met this man about a year ago, he is humble, caring, lively, romantic, financially comfortable, generous and generally large at heart. Infact, he appears too good to be true. He proposed to me about 6 months after we met and your guess is as good as mine, I accepted without hesitation. Now, we are planning our wedding and we as usual in the christian way, we have started our marriage counseling.

To cut the long story short, my pastor has objected to our wedding as my large-hearted man was once married and has divorced his wife. My pastor further said that as a truly born again christian and a worker in my church, I cannot marry a previously married man whose wife is still alive.

I am 35 years old and age is currently not on my side. Where exactly is it written that one cannot marry a divorced man? Do I just damn my pastor and get married in another church. I need your urgent advice please. ***Out of our 8 years of my marriage, my husband hasn’t touched me for 5 years despite the fact that we sleep in the same room and bed, NO TOUCH! Out of frustration, I have been in and out of our matrimonial home more than 3 times and each time I do, he does not waste time to bring in different ladies to spend some time with (In the house that we pay the rent equally o).  I find myself returning to the house after too much pressure from my parents and people around me that I should remain faithful to my wedding vows as a christian and for the fact that God hates divorce. In addition, our 7 and 3 years old children are always crying and demanding to see their Dad whenever we are away from the house and I mostly go back because of them. Please everybody , my blood pressure is running too high, I am practically running mad, I am dying, I AM TIRED!!! What do I do because I dont know if it’s a spiritual problem of I am just no longer attractive to him. *** I met this man about a year ago, he is humble, caring, lively, romantic, financially comfortable, generous and generally large at heart. Infact, he appears too good to be true. He proposed to me about 6 months after we met and your guess is as good as mine, I accepted without hesitation. Now, we are planning our wedding and we as usual in the christian way, we have started our marriage counseling. To cut the long story short, my pastor has objected to our wedding as my large-hearted man was once married and has divorced his wife. My pastor further said that as a truly born again christian and a worker in my church, I cannot marry a previously married man whose wife is still alive. I am 35 years old and age is currently not on my side. Where exactly is it written that one cannot marry a divorced man? Do I just damn my pastor and get married in another church. I need your urgent advice please.